Women who confuse longing with love find it difficult to feel ‘in love’ if their feelings toward a man are reciprocated. They associate love not with ‘having’ but with ‘wanting,’ and continually seek men who are unavailable. Because their love is not reciprocated they remain in a miserable state of longing…….Nice men are not elusive, unknown or mysterious. They are right there. They call when they say they will. And yet these men are passed over because they don’t stimulate that sense of longing so often linked with the feeling of being in love…
The problem, often not discovered until late in life, is that when you look for things in life like love, meaning, motivation, it implies they are sitting behind a tree or under a rock. The most successful people in life recognize, that in life they create their own love, they manufacture their own meaning, they generate their own motivation.
For me, I am driven by two main philosophies, know more today about the world than I knew yesterday. And lessen the suffering of others. You’d be surprised how far that gets you.
Source: o-rly
Love gets so sexualized in our world. We start to feel like there is no love outside of romantic love. There are lots of wonderful love stories that have nothing to do with sex or romance, and I guess I wanted to write one of those.
John Green (on writing Will Grayson, Will Grayson with David Levithan)
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The L Word
Doc Sorrow blogged a photo which I assume was her tattoo. What she wrote beneath it was something I wanted to reblog, but I realize how people get when you reblog their photos.
So instead, I will provide a link to that post here. It’s a cool looking tattoo if you’re into those. And if you’re not, it’s still a cool looking tattoo.
The post was about the L word.
A gentleman had sent in a Dear Sugar letter. And here is part of the reply he received:
Do you realize that your refusal to utter the word love to your lover has created a force field all its own? Withholding distorts reality. It makes the people who do the withholding ugly and small-hearted. It makes the people from whom things are withheld crazy and desperate and incapable of knowing what they actually feel.
So release yourself from that. Don’t be strategic or coy. Strategic and coy are for jackasses. Be brave. Be authentic. Practice saying the word love to the people you love so when it matters the most to say it, you will.
We’re all going to die, Johnny. Hit the iron bell like it’s dinnertime.
“Sometimes, when people decide to leave you for good, you have to let them, no matter how much you don’t want them to. There are some things that are far beyond our control. Even if you have the strength to fight for them, you have to accept the cold harsh truth — the people that you can’t live without, can live without you.”
Such a sad quote. But probably true.
Source: jennuhsaisquoi
A soul mate is an ongoing connection with another individual that the soul picks up again in various times and places over lifetimes. We are attracted to another person at a soul level not because that person is our unique complement, but because by being with that individual, we are somehow provided with an impetus to become whole ourselves.
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Looks like the tree aged fairly well. Relatively speaking.
(via abangnotawhimper)
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